Today I want to connect on a deeper level with you about TRIGGERS.
Before you decide to hide under the covers, because the word itself triggers you, hear me out.
I've been working with clients for 6 years now and one of the most common blocks to healing that I've witnessed in this space is the inability to properly navigate emotions when being triggered.
Let me know if any of the following situations are familiar to you :
- Experiencing high amounts of worry and stress when someone is mad at you
- Lashing out or overreacting when someone does something to piss you off
- Feeling unworthy when faced with rejection
- Feeling completely numb when experiencing situations that should cause sadness
First of all, If you do react like this when triggered, it's okay. Your reactions don't define you and there's nothing to feel ashamed of.
And second, let me just give you a BIG virtual hug because I understand how draining this can be.
These emotional patterns are a clear indication of stored emotions within the body that need to be released, which is completely understandable, since most of us were not giving a safe space to explore the full range of the emotional spectrum, growing up.
Most of us grew up in households where our anger was suppressed, our sadness made us weak and stressing about which moods are parents were in was the norm.
But I had a MASSIVE BREAKTHROUGH around emotional patterns, about three years ago, that completely shifted the way I understand and interact with my emotions. Which led me to create ''Healing is Found in the Emotions : A Guide to Breaking Emotional Patterns''.
Your emotions are NOT the enemy. The story you tell yourself about your emotions, based on how they were handled by your caretakers as a child, is what causes pain.
Emotions cannot be forgotten, stored away, suppressed or ignored because they are an INNATE part of us.
In other words, you were born with them. However, we're not giving a textbook on how to properly experience and express them, that's our parent's job. To help us navigate those big feelings within a little human body.
If this is something you struggle with, it's likely because of societal BS about which emotions are allowed to be experienced by you and environmental experiences in your upbringing that have led you to believe that you had to bottle up all ''negative emotions'' and that certain emotions were not safe to express.
So, instead of trying to suppress, bottle up or hide your emotions (how's that working out for you?), we need to deprogram the idea that your emotions are the enemy & that they should be bottled up to avoid pain and instead learn how to create a safe space within to properly understand, experience, express and transmute them.
Healing is found in the emotions.
- Jeannah